Oh Connie, do relax. Everything will fall into place once you get to balance your schedule. One of the keys to a successful multi-career path is to organize a good schedule.

Btw, the link for this site in PMN has error. When read more is clicked, this appears:

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Take care, dear, we don’t want you to burn out. I’m sure you don’t want that too. (((hugs)))

Thanks, Julie. For the sympathy and the error report hehehe. Maybe another shopping spree will do me good.

Your kids will do fine. You are doing all you can and still being the person you are. Go with your gut feeling. You know, I started a new life in my late forties and loving it. It’s been one big adventure.

If you neglected some offers now, it ‘ll be there one day. If it wasn’t meant to be today, it will be there in the future waitin for you.

I can relate in so many ways… thanks for this post. Just as you thought you’re wasted and can’t think of something else to write, what you posted is appreciated by me

A suggestion: maybe you should set up a list of criteria for opportunities you will not pass up. Be very picky and stringent with the criteria. It may look something like:

1. Who or what is the organization courting you (heheh)
2. What are the benefits of taking advantage of the opportunity, and the detriments?
3. Are the detriments worth the benefits?

You can add whatever else is important to you. And then once it has passed your criteria, you can even rank them according to which are the most important. If something falls to the bottom of the list, you can dedicate the least time to it. And maybe give yourself a limit on how many can be at the list at the same time.

Just thinking out loud. Hope this helps.

Take care and give yourself a break!

the good thing about this experience is that you know the problem. at least you could do troubleshooting and you know where to start.

decisions, decisions. and you are right, Connie, there are things that simply are not equated to financial gains. there are things that we do that gives us fulfillment. and you are very lucky–you have options, it is only a matter of taking those that will place you in a win-win situation. hugs!

It feels good NOT to read anything that says: Go where the money is. Believe it or not, that’s what a lot of people advise me. I guess that’s the difference between mothers and a mother-to-be (when’s the big day, Pinayhekmi?), you know what it feels to be torn apart, so to speak.

Life is indeed full of surprises. Just welcome them and see where life leads you. Blogging was not even invented when we were young and now you are so good at it. Who would have thought?

You seem to have an open communication line with your kids. Maybe, you could have one of your heart to heart talks and let them in your dilemma. You might just get inputs from them which you do not expect.

If you are happy then you will be a better Mom and wife.

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I think history has shown you’re on an enviable roll of “right” decisions. Have no fear that whatever criteria you’ve been using to make these career/life decisions has been working for you and shouldn’t dissapoint you in future choices.

Connie, easy ka lang. I know you don’t want to be in my situation (with my previous employer at least) where I almost don’t see CJ. Buti ka nga sa bahay ka nagwowork. Yun nga lang nago-overlap yung work time and personal time.

My wife has the same problem too, ever since she started that travel-agency-at-home biz. CJ tries to get her attention all day. LOL.

My mother is in pretty much the same situation, except that she doesn’t cook for us. Maybe it’s time that you teach your househelp some of your culinary routines? Or have your girls sub for you in the kitchen? It’s an added burden for them, sure, but no amount of superwoman-ing would make you exactly what your Sassy Lawyer logo looks like. :p

Take it easy. The world (or at least your family) does not need to depend on you alone.

Cocoy, re “If you are happy then you will be a better Mom and wife.”

Oh my gosh, that is so, so true. I know a lot of stay-at-home moms who become overprotective of their kids, nagging them endlessly and getting paranoid — all because there’s no other mental or emotional stimulation.

Thanks, Chris, I hope the ride only ends when I’m ready to retire. And that won’t be for a long, long, long time — if ever.

Jon, at CJ’s age, working at home is a real challenge. When my kids were at the age, I had little time for anything else. Buti yan iisa pero hindi pa rin yan madali for your wife.

My kids cook during vacations but I really can’t ask them to on schooldays. You should see their own schedules. No joke. The househelp? Nakooow… LOL Pwede kung pritong isda araw-araw. hehehe

Two words..chill out. You need a break, girl. I can understand the stress level with all that you are taking on at the moment. Pero, kung kaya mo naman, bakit hindi. Nagkasabay-sabay lang siguro.

BTW, kung ayaw nila yun paksiw-na-lechon, akin na lang

LOL Kongkong, baka i-deliver pa sayo ni Sam personally yung paksiw. Pero, ubos na sa wakas!

Hey Sassy, remember this…?

“Whatever it is you decide to do, dapat di ba yung masaya ka sa ginagawa mo. Kasi, aside from being a daughter-wife-mother, you are still you. And that is just as important. Kailangan din naman mahalin natin sarili natin, di ba?”

It’s one of the things I keep in mind when I’m at a cross-road, family and carrer-wise…

It is dueing these times when you have to follow your heart. (naks, parang love life, no?) Usually, it is family first before career. If you think you’ll never be remiss as a mother, accepting more jobs can be fulfilling.

Kayang kaya mo yan.

Yah, Lee, still my motto. Was just wondering if there’s such a thing as loving oneself too much. Pero, hindi naman siguro.

Know what, Connie, you are doing the right thing. Do what you have and want to do.

I was in the same dilemma before. I chose the home and family. I turned down so many opportunities. I closed my eyes on things I wanted to do which I believed would be obstacles to my mothering duties. And now I regret. I realize there could have been ways by which I could balance both career and mothering, but I didn’t give it a try.

Money is a good incentive but without passion and heart that you are willing to dedicate on a certain job, it’s not worth it. Like, with everything, you gotta love what you do. I have a feeling that whatever you decide, it would be the right one for you, and your family. I and I’m sure the others as well will be here cheering you on

Salamat sa vote of confidence, Tito Rolly. Pogi ka talaga hehehe

Rhodora, that’s it exactly. Feeling sorry because I didn’t even try. Masakit, di ba?

How true, Dexie. And that’s probably the real reason I am happier writing than practicing law. You just gotta love what you do.

Actually, by having a career and juggling motherhood is a good example for your daughters. You are showing them that they can have these choices and be good at both. You are showing them that women are just not about being pregnant and barefoot in the kitchen.

I’m a working Mom as well, I’m lucky that my profession allows me to work from home. My ten year old is well-balanced and he knows that he is a priority.

One day when I was driving him and his friends to their swimming lesson, we passed a building with the logo of the company that I work for and my son pointed to it and said ‘Hey thats where my Mom works.’ His friends all asked what I do and he said ‘She works with computers, she’s the coolest Mom ever’.

Believe me when you’re daughters are grown up, have careers and start a family your good example will guide them.

C, that is truly inspiring. And this very new breed called work-at-home-moms is such a boost to us moms who need that stimulation that only professional work can provide.

Hi Connie,

I’m a work-at-home mommy myself and I have “attacks” just like yours every now and then. All I can say is that you seem to be one who will always strive to be the best in what you do—as wife, mother and career woman—and that’s something you should be proud of. Your children will learn from your own determination, independence and strength and, as long as they know that they are always first on your list, they will grow up to be good kids with you serving as a good role model.

Thank you, Jaymie. My husband was just saying earlier that he doesn’t enjoy malling or going anywhere without the kids, kahit daw makukulit. I told him that’s because he sees them only at the end of the day and during weekends. He doesn’t have to stay with with 24/7 during summer and Christmas breaks. Much as I love them, you know, a break is like… keeping an equilibrium. Nakaka-stress din especially pag nag-aaway… hay…

sentiments of a very driven working mum… relax as they say…. besides your daughters are not kids anymore, they’ll be off to Uni soon… I don’t think they’d resent you taking on more roles.

alam mo, auee, when the word “driven” is mentioned, inside my head I see John Travolta in Swordfish (love the movie). I don’t know why. Anyway, the moment of panic has passed and I feel much better. I hope you ALL feel great too about self, family, career and life.